Would You Sacrifice More Education for a Relationship?

 In this 21st century, the Black woman seems to be faced with the "phenomenon" of SUCCESSFUL YET SINGLE! It's been the focus of many books, news segments, radio shows, reality shows, hair salon conversations, etc. It seems that the more educated and successful you are, the more the odds decline for you to meet "the one" that you want. So what do you think?


Jameka's Answer:  The independent woman in me says HECK NO! But in actuality, I'm going to have to say yes :-( DON'T BEAT ME UP THOUGH! Go with me on it.... The friends that you hang around often resemble you and when they don't, it's easy to grow apart or clash. For those of you that are in college, think about the friends you had that didn't go to college. For me, I have a hard time relating to them now because our lives have taken 2 different paths. Many of my friends who didn't go to college have 1-3 kids now, whereas I'm still living at home with my parents just trying to get my degree lol. It's kind of the same for relationships, I think. Not to say that having a college education makes you any better than anyone else, but it's hard to date and relate to someone who may have a high school diploma when you have a Master's degree or a phD, because your lives are very much different. Once you get a phD, wouldn't you find yourself having "phD friends" because they're easiest to relate to (not that that makes it right...). Given the skewed ratio of Black men in college in comparison to Black women, it makes you stop and think is it really worth it to go all the way to get to a doctorate or a bunch of other degrees when it could mean that you don't end up married.

At the end of the day, yes yes no man should define what you're doing with your life, be you and be happy, even if means being alone....... but I don't want to plan to be alone, you know?

Ahhh... surely someone sees what I mean and doesn't eat me alive after this comment lol. :-/ 

Sierra's Answer: Ok so sorry Jameka, I saw this post you were about to do and I just hhhhaaaddddd to say something. Ladies and Gentlemen, hear me loud and clear DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!! Lol but no seriously. First of all, from experience I sacrificed relocating for a relationship and I ended up single and bored because I went back home to the middle of nowhere. Most of the time when someone "sacrifices" for a relationship that has no more of a title to it than the one that's on facebook, it's usually because someone is insecure. And the insecurity is that the other person won't stay when some of the dynamics in the relationship change. Well sorry to tell ya, but that's life and things change so you don't need anyone who is afraid of that. Unless your sacrifice is for someone who has already made a commitment to you in the first place (and not a fb status) then I say nnnooooo way. But I wouldn't let education determine who you have a relationship with. Different education levels may make it difficult to understand the other person's views or lifestyles but that could be an issue with different race, ethnic groups, anything. As long as you respect each other and no one is condensending to the other then it will work. Furthering your education is always a positive thing and it is the one thing you will always have even when people come and go in your life.