The Hook Up

Over the past couple of weeks, my friends have offered to help me and my situation (the single life). These are mainly the friends who have a good guy by their side and would like to see me happy. I actually love that they are even thinking of me, but now I feel like an orphan. Has this ever happened to you? I mean, no one is jumping up to hook you up with some cash when you have to pay a bill, but say you are single and BOOM!!! They all want to help. But hey, since I am not having the best of luck with going out, I figured it couldn't hurt.

So I have been single several times throughout my 29 years of life, where people, including my mother, has tried to hook me up with some random guy they thought was nice. My mother did it and I had no clue what she was thinking. I mean he had a job, but he wanted me to braid his hair. I did one, but we never made it to the dating scene. The time before that was when my best friend hooked me up with her boo's cousin. That didn't work out for several reasons, one being that I was way too young to be dating someone. And the most recent one was about 2 years ago. Things started off great, but I think they went waaaay too fast. It was my friend's brother. She sent me a message on facebook and basically said that her brother was single, had a job and she thought I would be great for him. I won't go into details, but I honestly wish things could have worked out, because he is a great catch, but that means nothing if one person is not feeling you. So there you have it. So now it's back to the drawing board.

In the past 2 weeks alone, I have had several friends offer to hook me up. I have learned from my mistakes and I am not taking any more hand outs. Well, not without doing my homework first. I am pretty much old school when it comes to dating. I want to be pursued by a guy and take it from there. I was told that I need to come out the 50's (this was mean). LOL... I don't mind being in the midst of it all, but I want the guy to see me and say "wow, she looks nice. Let me go talk to her" without having been coached. Since this seems like a dream that will never come true, I guess I'll have to be hooked up. I am willing to go out on a date with a guy even if we have never met, but there are some ground rules...

1. If you are going to hook me up, at least know what type of guy I like.
There is nothing worse than being hooked up by someone who has never had a conversation, with you, about men. This leads to a date with someone THEY like. *side eye*

2. Talk to the guy you are hooking up. Make sure they have time to date and are not recovering from a recent break up.
Have you ever gotten all dressed up and ready for a date only to end up spending a whole 2 hours trying to convince someone that their ex had a reason to leave and they should move on? I mean all I wanted was the Alfredo chicken and I end up being a counselor. Nope!!!

3. Made sure the "hook up-ee" (new word) has done their research beyond what thy see.
Friend: Girl he is super sweet, he doesn't have any kids and he has a good job. You guys would be good together. Guy: Well I just got laid off and I am going to take a break. That child support has been kicking my butt. Did you know they took out 20% for the first child? My ex-wife was a ____ (fill in the blank).
*This is the worst type of guy there is and now you want to fight your friend once she gets off work. LOL... I am not desperate.

4. Both parties have to be opened minded. After all it's only a date. Neither party has to make a commitment, over bread sticks, about what the future holds. LOL... All too often, women get caught up in this fantasy world and leave a date feeling like they have been let down. I always say... I'm hungry and wouldn't mind having someone else pay for my food. If I get more than that, as I leave the restaurant, then I'm grateful, but leftovers are good too (doggy bag me please).

I am going to be more open and take these hook-ups for what they are worth and move on. In the mean time, I am going to rock my 2 strand twist out and go to dinner. Enjoy your week... Ciao!!!