Hey you guys. So people who really know me, knows that I am VERY opinionated (and blunt) and will give you my advice on whatever situation you present to me (I was a psych major). Because I was coming off a bit strong handed, I have slowed down quite a bit, considering I do not like unwarranted advice myself and I feel awful (lol). I say all this, because right now I am dealing with a situation, that I how no clue how to approach, so I need your help.
So there is this young lady that I know and she has been thorough a rough patch, so to say, and she can not see herself with anyone that she can trust. Now I have known her a little under a year and the stories she has told me do not seem like enough to want to give up on love (but to each their own). She was in a relationship with this guy, but was not into him like he was into her. She would ignore his calls, didn't want to see him, or even hang out with him. Why was she with him, you ask.. I asked her the same thing and as an adult woman, she said that she did not know. O_o This really did not sit well with me. I absolutely can not stand when good people are mistreated. So me being me, I told her that was unfair to him and she should just break up with him, so that he can find someone who would appreciate him (I met the guy and seemed pretty cool to me and from what she was saying, he was an okay guy). Her reason for treating him the way she did, was because she does not trust men and does not believe in love (she has kids). This really just got to me.
Today, after she told me she broke up with him, while laughing, I got really upset and had to walk off. In no way, should a person, male or female, be treated the way she treated him. Every time we talk about him, I don't say anything, because I know how blunt I am and her feelings would be all the way hurt. So I ask you this... Do you know anyone like this? What can be said to someone who has been broken so bad, by a man, without coming off as a drill sergeant? Help!
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I am hesitant to admit that I used to be her. I was in a long term relationship with a guy that made all of the men I met after him pay for his mistakes. My ex was a nice guy like that and I mistreated him and turned down his proposal....I felt bad and eventually broke up with him and shortly after met the guy that is now my soulmate and I am very much in love now. Hurt people hurt people......she needs to seek counseling. btw now following ur blog doll!
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Hi Styles. Thanks for the follow. That line "hurt people hurt people" makes so much sense. I guess I just never thought of that before. It is hard to overcome hurt and move on. It takes strength to do just that. I'm going to talk to her and see if she would be open to counseling. Thanks for your advice.
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